Funny that is the topic for Erin Bohn’s Adoption Talk Linkup today. I just did a blog post for Transfiguring Adoption titled Loss and Acceptance in Adoption. I think the topic of my post is one thing that Adoption Is…
The thing I’ve learned during my walk through adoption and foster-adoption advocacy is that each person’s story and feelings are different. It seems like that would go without saying; however, I never realized…
- How important it is for adopted children to have access to their original birth certificates.
- There are people who are adamantly against adoption.
- Some children are unsettled until they have contact with their biological family while others couldn’t care less.
- The pain and guilt I would feel for Ruth’s loss, and how connected I would feel to her.
- The lifelong hole biological mothers feel after placing a child for adoption.
For me, Adoption Is a bittersweet adventure. There is so much joy and pain tied up together that I really cannot separate the two. It can also be very stressful and make me question my ability to be a good parent.
But it is also full of love:
- Love for my daughters, who have made so much progress.
- Love for my son, who is a wonderful brother and understands their challenges.
- Love for my husband, who is an exceptional father, and has been with me to share the laughter and tears.
- Love for my daughters’ biological mother, who gave me the gift of two daughters.
- Love for my extended family, who have been supportive from the beginning.
- Love for my neighborhood community and the school the kids attend, who are flexible and don’t hesitate to accommodate our daughters’ unique needs.
I think if I had to summarize adoption, it would be:
Adoption Is a bittersweet adventure of love and loss.
What is adoption to you?